My husband and I recently celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. We were babies when we were married. Just graduated from college and working real salaried jobs. I remember Hubby's father interviewing us before our wedding asking if we knew what we were getting into, to which I replied with, "Of course." He said the real answer is, "No. No we don't." He was so right. We thought we knew what we were in for, but really we had no clue. I don't know if anyone really knows. Were we ready, yes. But did we really comprehend what we were doing. Heck no. It has been a roller coaster of emotions and events over the last 16 years. And yet, 16 years later, we would still do it all over again. It was the right decision then, and it's still the right decision now.
When sharing my experiences about true love with some of the teens/young adults that I mentor, I tell them that true love is not flowers and fancy dinners. True love is your spouse washing vomit filled sheets at two in the morning. It's tag teaming each other when every single person in your family of six has the stomach flu and no one feels well and everyone is vomiting. You take turns sleeping and cleaning out vomit buckets. It's finding out your 8yo came home with a head full of lice, stripping all the sheets, treating everyone's head, and then picking nits out of each other's head at midnight. It's looking across the dinner table and laughing at an untold joke. It's being able to read each other so well that few words are needed.
True love is not the fancy stuff, it's the nitty gritty life stuff and doing it together. It's knowing that you can rely on your spouse and that your spouse can depend on you. I wouldn't give up the last 16 years and I look forward to many more of life's adventures with the love of my life. It doesn't have to be fancy. It just has to be with him.