A few months ago my aunt and uncle came by to give me a hand with the house. They straightened up every room in the house. I was impressed with their efficiency and how little was said as they worked together. They had a certain rhythm that complimented one another. I wondered if Hubby and I would ever hit that stride.
After almost 11 years of marriage and 3 kids later, it looks like Hubby and I might be hitting our stride. Since he came home from his big project that took him out of state, Hubby and I seem to be working together more efficiently. We're more in tune with each other and as a result our lives seem to be more harmonious...which I'll probably jinx just by writing this post!
In all seriousness, I have been a bit surprised by how smoothly things are going at home. Not that we fought constantly before or things were majorly chaotic. It's just that things seem to easier. There's less hustle and bustle and more of a flow. Is this mommy becoming less discombobulated?
I think it has helped that our weekends haven't been over scheduled since he's been home. I had purposely not scheduled anything the last two weekends because I didn't think he'd be home last weekend and this weekend was the weekend he was supposed to arrive home. Maybe there's something to that. Hmmmmm. Must file that away for future reference.
Maybe it's because we're still in the honeymoon phase of having him home again. We missed each other terribly while he was away and we're still reveling in our family unit being whole once again.
I also have to say that I was less stressed while he was away because my parents helped immensely while he was gone. They literally came over every other day to give me a hand. Whether it was with dinner, bath time, grocery shopping, or a little straightening up, they were here. I also had the company of great family and friends to keep me moving (Thanks J. and L!). Oh, and I also slept (sortof). I made it to bed not much after I put the kids down. After the first couple of nights trying to finish that "one last thing" I decided it wasn't worth it and that getting enough sleep would make more of a difference in what was accomplished the next day. Less stress meant that I was able to greet my husband with a happy heart and a smiling face when he arrived home.
In the almost 15 years that we've been together I am more in love with my husband today than I was early in our relationship. There's something to be said for being able to communicate with just an eyebrow raise or the holding of a hand. I'd like to think that "hitting our stride" is attributed to growing in our relationship, being grateful for one another (especially after being apart for 11 days), and to being less critical of one another (which I can be totally guilty of doing, especially with lack of sleep and feeling at my wit's end!). Most of all, God's grace. He knew that my Hubby would be the perfect compliment to my personality and vice versa. I am blessed.
Here's to at least another 15 years of hitting our stride and growing old together!
Ephesians 4:2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,
1 John 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God