Because you deserve goodness
How do you start your year on Fire?
A new year is synonymous with making resolutions, choosing a power word of the year, and making a new you.
But what if I told you that you are already perfect the way you are, but you just need to see it for yourself?
Don’t believe me? Reframe your thinking. Take a deep dive into who you are and you’ll see that you can start the year embracing who you are and who you are meant to be.
Not sure where to start?
Start your year with Jen Hatmaker’s latest book, “Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire.”
Who is Jen Hatmaker
Jen Hatmaker, a well known Christian author, authentically shares about motherhood and life. She admits the challenges of parenting while also savoring all the memories. Known for her large feather earrings, her love for Jesus, and her fight for equality and justice, Hatmaker is no wallflower.
Life hasn’t always come easy for Hatmaker as her support for LGBTQ rights has caused fellow Christians to throw judgement her way, exclude her, and break ties with her. Nonetheless, Hatmaker continues to give out those Free Mom Hugs at Gay Pride parades.
When she joined the activist community, her work became belittled and mischaracterized because she didn’t fit the mold of how Christian women should act. But Hatmaker continues to do her work stating clearly that she is “Entirely wired to love and believe in Jesus.”
Hanging out with the King’s kitchen staff
Hatmaker chastises the “Daughters of the King” claiming them to be the worst when it comes to lifting other women up. Instead they are the greatest offenders to other women, breaking them down. She’d rather “hang out with the King’s kitchen staff, because his daughters are mean as the Devil’s hell.” Ain’t that truth?
She believes that too often, women are labeled a certain way as kids, or see themselves through a lens of trauma, or even from the perspective of their parents and live their lives under a label that does not truly identify who they are.
Words of Wisdom
In early 2020 Hatmaker shared her guide to living fiercely, freely, and full of fire. Unbeknownst to her, her personal life took an unexpected turn showing her fans that even when it looks like you have it altogether, life will serve up lemons. Hatmaker doesn’t shy away from tough topics, including her own divorce while still maintaining her privacy. Her supporters keep following her and think she’ll find herself stronger on the other side.
Hatmaker is nothing if not raw, vulnerable, sincere, and passionate. She shares her words of wisdom for those of us still looking to find where we belong starting with how to appreciate ourselves.
She claims that she is not easily vulnerable, but her willingness to share the twists and turns in her professional and personal life helps other women realize that they are in good company with Jen. No one is perfect, but you are perfect the way you are with room for growth by embracing who you are and who you are meant to be.
Her book assures readers that, “…my space will be safe for you, and you are loved already.” She encourages her readers to “come and get your life.”
So what does that have to do with embracing who you are and living authentically?
Jen tackles the hard questions and really pushes the limits of who we are as women, what we believe, and what we have been led to believe. For the last 14 years I have been redefining myself and who I think I am as a woman, a wife, a mother, and a member of the Church.
Jen lays it all out nicely in five sections: Who I Am, What I Need, What I Want, What I Believe, and How I Connect.
It’s all the things I have thought about over time organized in a cohesive manner.
She breaks down every section dissecting why we believe who we are and causing the reader to stop, reflect, and evaluate who we really are, and confirms that we deserve goodness. Why don’t we let ourselves appreciate, advocate for them, or just plain enjoy them? Why must we martyr ourselves to fulfill someone’s idea of who we are or how we should act?
When we are able to look at ourselves and appreciate our beliefs, our bodies, our drive, we become authentically ourselves. We don’t need to look to other people for validation. And we especially don’t need validation from anyone else. We need to be comfortable in our skin.
You Deserve Goodness
Hatmaker embraces the reader and tells her, “You deserve goodness. Full stop.” YOU. DESERVE.GOODNESS. She also tells her readers that the amount of space they take up is enough. They take up just the right amount. There’s no fitting into a specific mold that society has created for you.
Reading this book is a game changer and will change how you think about yourself. You will reframe your thinking and affirm what you already know about yourself.
Jen’s writing style is one where she’s not talking “at” you. She’s sharing with you. She draws you in and a lot of what she shares are truths that you and I have been wrestling with in our own heads.
Her honesty, humility, and humor, and no-nonsense style encourages you to rethink who you are and help you to develop boundaries that you need to hold fast to or expand.
Jen not only tells you like it is, but gives you tools, talking points, and research to help you define who you are.
The beauty is that it can shift and change as we grow and gain new experiences. There are no hard and fast rules except “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.”
Go out there and find your YES. Say YES to Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire. You deserve it. Read this for yourself. Read this for the people who need you. You are important and you are worth it.